Ep 33 Necessary Endings, Bring New Beginnings #truthbetold

Welcome everyone to the 33rd episode of Professor P's Podcast. I am bringing you another dose of Elixir, the energic power. The topic for this show is NECESSARY ENDINGS, brings NEW BEGINNINGS #truthbetold

I am currently listening to a book by Dr. Henry Cloud titled Necessary Endings. The book is so amazing and is my inspiration for this episode. Dr. Henry Cloud is a clinical psychologist. In this book, Necessary Endings, the premise is endings are a normal part of life. Endings matter and are present in all areas of our lives. Learning to recognize endings is critical. Endings are a necessity for life to thrive in areas of existence.

Dr. Cloud offers a mixture of advice and case studies to help readers. He discusses things like pruning, distorted hope and realistic hope, the importance of knowing when to hold on and when to allow a necessary ending to take place.

According to Dr. Cloud, today may be the enemy of your tomorrow. In your business and perhaps your life, the tomorrow that you desire and envision may never come to pass if you do not end some things, you are doing today.

Getting to the next level always requires ending something, leaving it behind, and moving on. Growth itself demands that we move on. Without the ability to end things, people stay stuck, never becoming who they are meant to be, never accomplishing all that their talents and abilities should afford them.

To those who don’t understand how seeds work, it can look like destruction the process the seed must endure. It literally cracks itself open to allow the sprout to appear which then grows and leaves the shell behind. The necessary ending to the seed is the new beginnings of the plant that holds life in it.

Pruning in our lives is so important. It is strategic. I had the blessing of living on a vineyard for close to 10 years. Each year I would watch as the farmers would cut back the beautiful, lush growth of the season. The pruning was so intense. There was nothing left but the bareness of the vine. But then each year like clockwork a lusher vineyard appeared. This is the cycle of life that we do not take advantage of enough. What in your life do you need to cut off? Do you need God to help you? Let Him cut you I say. I am a living, walking, testament to the goodness of His pruning.

If the vine had held on to the lushness of one season it would have been stuck in that season. I don’t care how much hope it had in a new season; it would not have worked. That is what a distorted hope looks like. Many of us have distorted hope when it comes to relationships. We don’t understand the importance of one’s character.

Dr. Cloud goes in depth into false hope and what real hope looks like. He explains, for hope we need a satellite. One that will give you the most accurate predictions is the ability to diagnose character. Once you learn the character traits that give real reason to hope that tomorrow can be different, you can know better whom you want to invite into your tomorrow. You can know that there is a real reason to go forward.

He goes on to explain there are basically three types of people in the world, or better, three styles of behavior that a person can exhibit in a particular time or context.

1. Wise people 2. Foolish people 3. Evil people.

The person who ultimately does well is the one who can learn from his own experience or the experience of others, make that learning a part of himself, and then deliver results from that experience base.

Which brings us to the key to the wise person: When truth presents itself, the wise person sees the light, takes it in, and adjusts. The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meets their demands. And that is the problem with the fool. Whereas the chief descriptor of the wise person is that when the light shows up, he looks at it, receives it, joins it, and adjusts his behavior to align with the light, the fool does the opposite: he rejects the feedback, resists it, explains it away, and does nothing to adjust to meet its requirements. In short, the fool tries to adjust the truth, so he does not have to adjust to it.

Now, these people are the ones who will hurt you intentionally because they want to. You need to protect yourself, your family, church, business, and everything from an “evil” person. Here is where most people go wrong by giving “evil” people the benefit of the doubt or second chances. According to Cloud when a person with malevolent intentions makes themselves known believe them and get them out of your life or at least take protective actions to have an offense when they attack your life.

The truth is endings can be and are difficult, even painful, and sometimes are cause for grief and a deep sense of loss. We must face the grieving process that is a mental and emotional letting go or end. We face a new reality brought on by an ending, whatever it may be, this means we must feel and process the feelings and the emotions associated with the ending and the change brought on. This grief helps because it has movement to it; it goes forward. When we don’t face our grief, we can get stuck in the past, hanging on to false hope or staying angry at something that has happened in the past. Some people go decades, even lifetimes wasting their lives by not engaging in the process of Necessary Endings.

People who successfully navigate life have one thing in common: they get in touch with reality. I am calling you forward into reality. Necessary endings are a normal part of life. Even the word tells us that in Ecclesiastes. There is a season for everything. Your homework is to go inward and reflect on what really needs to end your life. Start with your closet! Let go of those old closes that are not serving you. Those treasure boxes are turning into trash boxes. If you are in a poor relationship and you are holding onto your hope, is it real hope or is it distorted hope? Perhaps you need to end doing something that will bring fruit to the relationship or finally move away from it once and for all. Look at the character of those who you sound yourself will. Decide to do what you need to in life. Move forward in your necessary endings, so that you can give birth to your new beginnings.

Let’s join in on today’s podcast to hear more about Dr. Cloud and the powerful topic of endings.

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